Transpirational Havening (TH) is a process whereby learning how our relationships create chaos or harmony in our lives can be changed via Havening Touch. In this sense, sensory feedback is given precedence over academic knowledge such as ‘he is a great placator’, or ‘she is a pursuer of knowledge’. Transformational Imaging (TI) of interpersonal reactions, behaviours and thought processes have an impact on how we respond within them. Transpersonal Havening is such that one can assess the programs that run the ideomotor systems that transpire into action. Before we look at how it works to change mindsets, we will first need to analyse the process of what constitutes a transpersonal reaction.
In the setting of being one to one with a person you have interactions with, this is known as an interaction in kind. What this means is that producing behaviours with the person who is in your circle of influence has an impact in that it creates a meaning from which you are likely to respond to them in the future. However, the way in which you respond will impact the way they respond to you in the future. So this idea translates into a dynamic replay of events that set the scene for future responses for both parties. This creational appendices of structures and forces make communication processes what they are by reinventing the coalition of action and reaction to the extent that behaviours are transformed beyond recognition-literally!
The process by which behaviours are transformed can be manifested using TPH from the perspective of being assisted by watching how they perform before and after the Havening Touch has been applied. To illustrate my point I am going to demonstrate a session conducted with a client who was training his brain to become more at peace with his dead father. The following section will outline how we changed his perspective using Transpirational Person Havening Touch in a Virtual World setting
The setting: The Healing Pool in Second Life 3D Virtual World.
My client was feeling angry with his father for treating him with disrespect at a young age. His father had thrown him out of the house for being naughty and this left him feeling betrayed, abandoned and unprotected from harm. As an adult, he would have nightmares about people breaking into his house at night. Hence my client did not feel safe in his own home. We used Event Havening to de-link the emotional charge of the actual event of him being thrown out of the house. We then used TPH which involves asking the client to think of his father in a way that he remembered in general. Then ask him to start making an image of his father as he would have seen him in the trauma scenario described above. In this way, we were able to pinpoint learning activities (dynamic interactions ) that made sense in the manner conducive to exposing modalities of behaviours towards another person who had managed their emotions in relation to what was being manifest.
Transpirational Person Havening: The process
We started by having the client repeat the person’s name (his father’s) whilst applying Havening Touch. I listened out for tones and tensions that transpired as the name was being verbalised by the client. In this sense, the words were being monitored by the process of being the indicator of the rate at which a personal transformation was being attained. It is with this process that we understand the dynamics of what is being processed in the moment. The voice tone is a great leveller of experience, in that it makes you aware of the circumstances of the nature of the relationship as you move through it.
Once the name had been repeated several times and the client has expressed all they need to express in terms of tones and accents, there will come a time whereby the client falls silent and a pause ensues rather like an interval before the main event. We then progress the client by asking them to allow words that represent the relationship between them to flow such as amazing, loving, thoughtful. All these words transpire to make sense of the reasons behind how they reacted responded and behaved in their presence. In essence they reveal the nature of the dynamic interactions that prevailed throughout the duration of the relationship. All that matters now is how they respond to the reactions of the person with whom they are trying to heal the relationship dynamic through integrative analysis. It is inspiring to imagine that, some day, people will be able to gain a perspective of this kind much quicker and more efficiently than ever before. The last words spoken by the client generally represent the state in which they want to be remembered by the person being Transpirationally Havened, in this case my client’s father. So the process of Transpirational Person Havening (TPH) is as follows.
1. Have the client think of the person they want to integrate into or out of their lives.
2. Have them repeat the name of the person whilst applying Havening Touch and visualising this person in front of them. You can have them imagine the traumatically encoded event in which this person had made an impact as well (In this case you will have employed Event Havening beforehand).
3. Once the name of the person has been repeated to the point of silence you can ask them to allow any words that come to mind as they think of them whilst applying Havening Touch. It is at this point that the words associated with this person become the format in which they find the respective associations between behaviour credence and application of the titles that govern the relationship dynamics.
My client, once he had gone through the process of TPH had found that he was left with a profound sense of peace and admiration for his father that he may never have discovered had he not noticed the relationship dynamics that held a bond representative of a loving Father-Son relationship!
As suggested by Dr Steven Ruden after talking him through my new found process, this represents a new category of Havening Techniques. He suggested some uses such as marriage relationships and business partnerships. We are in the early days of experimentation and I invite you to try TPH to enrich your personal, business and family relationships that mean something important to you. Don’t know? TPH is a great way to discover salience and meaning of all current and future relationships. It is a great way to discover who you should be spending your time with and what significance past relationships have on your life so far – fascinating stuff!
To find out more about Havening Techniques visit www.havening.org